Always be true to yourself and life will be kinder
To say I wasn’t interested in both the gender for as far as I remember, would be a lie. I have always admired all the genders, though felt attracted towards only two of them. It started as curiosity, for a very long time I’d identify myself as a bicurious person. I have been told a lot of times that there isn’t such a thing, but it made perfect sense in my eyes, I was open to exploring myself and those around me. Although I never had any girlfriends, one got really close to it, but she asked me if I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and I thought if I say yes, she might end it, anyway she did end it, cuz it turned out, even if she told me she didn’t wanted anything serious, she actually was hoping to find something like that. I’m sorry to the person for acting like a jerk and made the tinder date belief true to core that day. Anyway that’s another story.
Time… So I started thinking about women (girls at that time) when I was in class 11th. I’d always wonder how it’s to hold them, form emotional bonds with them… I actually had my first encounter well into the first year of my college. More than anything, I like to care for the partner I choose, irrespective of the gender. I become two different people when I’m dating different genders. I love it. I don’t have any coming out stories because I have always been a straightforward person, but a private person, all in all, I avoid talking about myself. So it’s always been like, if someone is interested in knowing my preferences and they ask me, I will always be very blunt with my answer that I’m a bisexual person. This has landed me in trouble too. I have been asked for threesomes by both genders. Have found people on bumble who were there for this specific reason, to find a girl to satisfy them and their partners. I’ll never understand them, no offense to anyone interested in a threesome.
But I can never share my partner. I don’t know if I’m making sense right now or I’m too emotionally involved in this story but I just want all of you to know, it is your life, and you live by making choices. Make your own choices and live your life. Respect other people’s choices as you respect yours and all will be better. I’m always available for anyone who wants someone to hear them out or need help. Although I haven’t been out of the closet in the traditional sense, I have never hidden away. I’m always here to lift your spirits up and help you face your demons. Just remember, always be true to yourself and life will be kinder.
It’s been great to write about something which is so close to me. I share so you know you aren’t alone and you’ll always have a friend to help you out.
Here’s the moment where I sign off and wish you all the best for the future.
Sending good vibes to all.
Hasta la vista baby!
– Vaishnavi Pal